sonder – n. the realization that each random passerby is living a life as vivid and complex as your own.
A few months ago, I came across the word sonder. I find it such an interesting topic and I thought it would make a good blog post. As I was thinking of this word, the first situation that came to thought was being on the subway in New York City. There were so many people doing life. Going to work, going to visit someone, on vacation, enjoying their day off, or trying to figure out how the subway worked while trying not get lost… So many people that were living their own life and people that I’ll never see again in mine. As you already know by now, I am so fascinated by humans. Interested in how we act, how our brains work, what we love and who we are. This is why I enjoy this word so much.
When I opened up about KLS, the most popular reaction I got was shock. These people didn’t even know that this neurological disorder even existed. Let alone happening to someone they’re talking to and listening to my real life experiences. The same goes when people open up to me about their lives, I never expect them to be in the position they are in and making decisions that could change them. I absolutely love listening to someone else’s story, rather than hearing me talk about mine. These stories are what makes us all so unique and interesting. There are over 7 billion people on this earth living their own complex life that is completely different from everyone else’s. They are dealing with challenging situations, making friends and working to reach their goals.
There are so many things that are happening in our own lives that we forget that other people are facing their own problems as well. We are who we are for a reason, everything that has happened in our lives have shaped us into what we have become right now. In this moment. I was not the same person I was last year, neither are you or the person walking down the street. I’m very thankful that I have changed over the year into who I am today. Though I am still constantly changing, this past year has given me so much strength and understanding. So many people have supported me, encouraged me and became interested in my personal story. So many of you, living your own complex life, has helped encourage me to get through mine. I cannot express my gratitude enough, for each and every one of you.
This is what leads me to encourage people, to inspire, to be kind and to be thankful. Every single person you see is dealing with something that has broke them, healed them or changed them in some way. Over 7 billion people living their own complex life, not one and the same as anyone else’s. That is the beauty of life.